Say What You Want: Kids boldly declare what they want when they want it. None of this magical mind reading ‘if he loved me he would know’ kind of thinking. Children know what pleases them and aren’t afraid to ask for it. No holding back for fear of sounding silly or demanding, they want it, they say it. And why, because they know if they ask for it, there’s a good chance they might actually get it. Still not convinced? Take a kid to a toy store and you’ll see it in full blossom. “I want, I want, I want….” Speak up; you just might get what you ask for. Read the rest of this entry »
Women often need to talk out their feelings, stressors, thoughts, and concerns; this helps them to connect with other individuals.
Unless she directly asks you to “fix” or resolve a problem or concern she typically is talking to free up her mind and get a sense of understanding or support from the listener. Withhold your male sense to “fix it” and just listen.
If you’re not sure if she needs listening or fixing, ask her, “Do you need me to just listen, or are you asking me to help you solve a problem?” This is the best way to avoid conflict and miscommunication.
Men typically don’t share just to be heard so this may feel awkward or uncomfortable for you. But as you practice it will become easier and your relationship will greatly improve.
By Carolyn Flynn
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